Landon (00:00.142)
Now, if you sleep with someone who snores, you may have to just lie there and keep saying over and over, valuable, very valuable, very valuable.
Announcer
Hello again, everyone, and welcome into today's episode of Heartbeat the podcast, featuring the teaching and the insight of Landon Saunders. Today we return one more time to Landon's popular community workshop series entitled Feeling Good About Yourself, where he's focused on some successful attitudes for relationships. Here's Landon.
Landon
What are some successful attitudes that I can bring? These are values and attitudes that can help. Let me give you a little list of these. First of all, remember the value of a human being and that that value is not based on their performance or lack of that a human being, as we were pointing out last night, has inherent.
Now, I think it'd be a good thing sometimes to teach this value to your children. If you would perhaps tell them sometimes, say, kids, guess what? And kids love surprise. And they're gonna say, what? Listen, something unbelievably grand is going to happen in our house on Friday evening. What is it? What is it? What's gonna happen on Friday evening? Oh, something.
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Something really grand, something that hasn't happened in this house maybe for a long time, something wonderful is going to happen. Well, what is it? What's gonna happen? Listen, when this happens on Friday night, you're going to be so thrilled. You're not going to be able to believe it and just keep going and just build it until they're just about to burst. Something wonderful is gonna happen in this house on Friday night. And when they can stand it no longer, say, we've invited a human being come for dinner.
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And we need your help. We need your help to make this dinner and to make this night grand for this human being. Will you help? Because a person is the most important thing in the world. And this particular person is one of the grandest individuals in the world. Or this particular person has been hurt a lot lately. And they need encouragement. And so what we want to do, we want this to be a real red carpet affair.
And you may want to dress the children up and put them in their best clothes and let them be waiters and waitresses. And you may want to light the candles in celebration of what? Just in celebration of a human being. And sometimes you may want to have a day that's just special when it's not even a birthday. It's not even Christmas. It's not even Thanksgiving. But this is a day, you know, when we're going to just celebrate one member of your family or just a friend.
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Or what a difference it would make sometimes if you use your children's room sometimes for guests or if you have a guest room and somebody's gonna come and they're gonna spend the night and you know what you do, you go in and you may wanna put some special flowers up and you get that room to where it's just right. To somehow say to your child, boy, we've got a special guest tonight. Not gonna be here long. And then take them to their room. This is the room that the guest is going to be in. What could we do to this room? What could we do to make this room happier? What could we do to make this room more special? But, but, but mother, this is my room. This is my room. Oh, yes. That's what I, you're the one I'm talking about. You're the guest and we're going to make tonight really special.
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What are relationships for? They're for joy, remembering the... Now, if you sleep with someone who snores, you may have to just lie there and keep saying over and over, valuable, they're valuable, they're valuable. Now, they do have a little electrical wire that you sort of put around the neck and plug in the socket.
Now the problem with that is you want to turn up the electricity sometimes too much. Or when somebody, a grown adult, rational, sensible, intelligent, leaves all those little toothpaste mints in the sink. Can't that be distressing? People that, grown people that might leave their underclothing on the floor. Can be so distressing, so distressing. The value.
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Secondly, you gotta remember that a human being is the most important thing in the world. Now, they're valuable, and because they're valuable, they're the most important thing in the world. That nothing is as important as another human life. Oh, if we could just, if we could get this into all of our lives, the importance, the incredible importance of just a human life. And if this could become our style to look at people and to relate to people knowing how incredibly important they are. And not to wait until it's too late.
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Landon
And then another successful attitude is to think of relationships because they are difficult as something that you have to invest in.
You just have to invest in, if they weren't important, you wouldn't have to invest so much. But you invest, invest heavily in your relationships. I bought a car and I picked the car that I wanted and I took the car that I was driving in and I said to the person, and I lived in this town and was going to obviously get the service from the dealer that I bought from.
And so I said, this is the car I want, this is my car, you think it over, do right by yourself, do right by your company, and put on this piece of paper the difference between my car and this car, and I'll tell you whether I'll do it or not, and you get one shot at it.
Now I'm just playing. And so, well, no, no, we'll negotiate this. We'll deal with, no, we won't. You know, I want you to do, be fair to yourself, be fair to your company, and do your customer the best you can do. That's all I ask. Well, it took forever. But finally got a figure. And I looked at the figure and I said, okay, I'll do that on one condition, that you add $50.
And at first he said, no, this is the best we can do. See, he was so accustomed.
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And I said, no, I want you to add $50. And if you'll add $50, well, we've got a deal. Because I want you taken care of, I want your company taken care of, and I want the customer taken care of. Well, I don't have to tell you that I got wonderful service. Did you ever go through a toll booth and pay the toll to the person behind you? The race is on.
You know, you're going down the road and here they come and they're looking over and they're trying to say, who in the world, you know, they're thinking they may know you. Just pay the toll of that person that's behind. Invest and then watch expectations. An attitude with lots of expectations on it's not a good attitude to have.
And so try to lower those expectations. Someone said, no human being has a right to hold any expectations for another human being ever. I believe that's true, but I think it's awfully hard to grasp. Now, a couple of practical tips, and we're through. First practical tip is, remember in relationships the power of the words, I'm sorry. I'll tell you they're just magic.
I tell kids when they're into it with their parents, well, just go tell them you're sorry. Your parents will just, it'll melt them down like warm ice cream. You know, they're not accustomed. You'll shock them to death. You'll probably have to have smelling salts to bring them to. Tell them that you're sorry, that you just messed up, you forgot.
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If I had the power to do anything in this audience that I could do tonight, do you know what I would do? I wouldn't have to think that long. If I had the power, I would forgive every person in this audience for every regret and failure and mistake that you've made. Forgiveness is so powerful. I would just walk among you and I would say, I forgive you. you're forgiven and you're forgiven and you're forgiven and you're forgiven. It lets you go on with life. It's a practical thing but it's magic. Human beings need it to get on in their relationships and then don't forget the sense of humor. When things get hot in your house be sure and remember...
Instead of just staying there and fighting it out, leave. When it gets dangerous, just walk out the door and slam it for emphasis and then check your watch and wait 30 seconds. Don't go back too quickly and don't wait too long. And then at the end of that 30 seconds, you go back and don't walk in, knock. And when that other person comes to the door, before they can say anything, you say, wow, am I glad to see a smiling face? You should have seen the person I just talked to.
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Now, see, see, what are we doing there?
All we're doing is sort of breaking this thing up just a little bit. Every family needs a stick with a white flag on it. And when things get, say excuse me for a moment, and go and get that stick and just hold it around the corner and wave that white flag. This is secretary's week. Secretaries sometimes can have a real hard time because sometimes.
They might have a boss now and then they don't know how to treat a secretary. The secretary told me, she said, my boss is always on my case. He's always just saying, getting on me and yelling at me and screaming and saying, why did you do that? Why did you do that? She said, I don't know what to do. I said, well, the next time he does it, you just look up and say, I do it because I'm incompetent.
Well, a few days passed and I saw her again and she said, you know, my boss did it again. Jumped over me and said, you know, why did you do that? And just screaming and yelling and why did you do that? And I just looked up and said, I'm incompetent. And he said, oh no, no, no, no, no, you're not incompetent. You're always late. And they said, why are you late? Why are you late?
Well, you gotta have some way of dealing with that. The next time it happens, you tell them, you say, man, I'm so sorry, but I was on my way and I saw someone and I stopped to tell them, what a wonderful person you are and it just made me a few moments late.
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We need lots of this going in our relationships.
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Just a few attitudes that can totally change the nature of a relationship. We hope you've been encouraged by today's Heartbeat, the podcast featuring Landon Saunders. And we invite you to visit the website, thisishartbeat .com for additional materials made possible by Friends of Heartbeat. Until next time...Here's to feeling good about yourself.
